“In a world where you can be anything, be yourself.”
Have you heard this quote before?
I’ve heard it around and never really payed attention to it.
It never made sense to me.
Obviously you’d want to be yourself, why wouldn’t you want to be anything but?
We all want to be ourselves and don’t think were being anything different.
I think it just kind of happens.
You’re watching television.
Scrolling through Instagram.
Looking at random ads on Facebook.
And it happens.
You get this idea.
That you’re life needs to be that way.
That if you act a certain way, you’ll get this certain outcome.
We all do it.
Sometimes we don’t even realize it.
And sometimes we do.
If we just pretend to like what everyone else likes, we’ll fit right in.
Or if we act a certain way on Instagram we’ll just become that in real life.
We just copy others and boom, our lives will be perfect.
Instead of being original.
Maybe if we always post selfies of us smiling, happy quotes, or pictures of us on great adventures, then we’ll have this awesome life.
We’ll become these happy people who are living these big lives.
But you never see what’s behind the pictures.
What’s behind people telling you that their life is perfect and they’re always happy.
You never see the struggles, tears, or doubt that we all go through.
You always see the good and never the bad.
Want to know why?
Instagram is just a highlight reel.
It’s not always real life.
You only see the good.
That’s what it’s for.
Everyone doesn’t have the perfect life with that perfect latte and perfect post workout glow.
Life’s perfect sometimes, but it’s also messy.
And that’s what makes it perfect.
Were surrounded by all of these different messages.
You’re not pretty enough, buy this product for perfect glowing skin.
You’re not fit enough, you need to do this workout.
You’re not happy enough, you need this in your life.
We literally have people asking if we want to be amazing, confident, and happy, then why don’t we do exactly what they’re doing.
That is what’s wrong.
Why would be happier, more confident, and more amazing being just like someone else.
Just like everyone else.
What’s wrong with us and the way were living our own life.
All of a sudden you’re worrying about why you aren’t as fit, happy, healthy, and perfect like the people on Instagram and television.
Because they’re telling you that you’re less than perfect.
That might sound harsh, but it’s the truth.
Think about it.
You’re constantly being told that you need to do more and be better.
That the current version of you might be good, but it’s not good enough.
Not as good as them and their life.
That you’re not good enough the way you are.
That’s whats happening.
Were surrounded by people telling us that somethings wrong with us.
Therefore we sit and worry.
We must not be happy, healthy, and perfect.
That were not good enough.
It’s this cycle that repeats itself if were not careful.
It’ll just keep happening.
We’ll just keep trying to make our lives look a certain way.
We’ll just keep pretending to be like everyone else.
Because that’s what were told to do.
That’s what were forced to believe.
That were not happy unless we post positive quotes and force a cheesy smile.
That were not fit enough unless we do the same workout that everyone else is doing.
That our life’s not good enough, because it’s not like theirs.
You just have to know what to look for.
If something makes you feel bad.
Makes you feel anything less than happy.
Don’t let it.
Say no to it.
Say out loud if you need to that it’s not going to make you unhappy anymore.
Be confident in your life and the choices you make to know that you’re good enough the way you are.
You can change, you can do things differently, but it needs to be because you want to.
Not because someone is telling you to.
Be happy the way you are.
Be happy with your life.
Be happy being yourself.
I have this card from my best friend pinned above my desk, and my favorite part of it is the last line.
“Keep being you, the girl who sings in the car, loves Grey’s, runs for sanity, and loves her family.”
Instead of surrounding yourself with images of people telling you that you’re not good enough.
Surround yourself with people who know you.
Who support you.
And who love you for who you are.
People who don’t want you to change.
Know that you’re good enough just the way you are.
And that you don’t need to be just like everyone else.
You don’t need to act a certain way to impress others or convince yourself that you’re a certain way.
You just need to be yourself.
And try not to worry about what other people are doing.
They’ll try and tell you that you’re not good enough the way you are.
That you need to be a certain way, or be just like them to be happy.
But they’re wrong.
The key to being happy.
Is being yourself.