If I had a dollar for every time Jason and I have said to each other..
“There’s not a book on this kind of stuff, no one tells you what to do”
when it comes to raising Ian I’d have a lot of money on my hands.
No but seriously.
No one tells you how to raise a child.
You just kind of figure it out.
However, certain things come easier than others.
Like finding out what puts your little one to sleep might be easier than knowing what kinds of food to feed them and when.
Getting them to ditch their bottle might be the hardest thing ever, and lets not even start on getting them to sleep through the night.
Some things might be easier for one family and harder for the next, but that’s just how it goes.
Everything’s different, you just have to learn and figure it out as it goes.
If you’re reading this and don’t have kids, I’m sorry, this isn’t the most assuring thing in the world.
This is just how I see it.
And it doesn’t get easier as they get older.
It’s different every day.
And in that moment you might not be able to see it, but it’s amazing.
Just not at that moment maybe.
Especially when they decide that they want to poop in the bathtub.
It’s a crazy ride, but I feel like as a mom of a one year old, I can give some advice on how to survive it.
How you yourself can keep your sanity and not want to pull your hair out.
Have a sense of humor. Seriously. It’s so hard to get through the night and not laugh. It might be stressful and there might be days where you just want to scream, but if you can’t stop and laugh about it you’ll never make it. You just have to remember that when they sneeze in your face or throw their food on the ground, that they didn’t mean it and they still love you. You can’t laugh about everything, you’re human, you have emotions. Just try and laugh every now and then.
Have wine on hand. It doesn’t have to be wine, it can be any sort of dessert. Something that you love and that’ll help you relax whenever the little one decides to go to sleep, if they decide to go to sleep. I’ve found that on those nights where Ian has a little too much energy before bed, a nice glass of wine (or two) is the most beautiful thing in the world after he decides to go to sleep. If I don’t have wine, brownies or cereal are a good substitution.
Sleep when they sleep. This one is super important, and something I wish I would have done more when we had just brought Ian home. If you didn’t get any sleep the night before and they decide that they want to sleep for an hour, you might as well catch up on your z’s. Seriously, take advantage of the peace and quiet if you need it.
Pick and choose your battles. Your child running around the house with no pants on, doesn’t sound as bad as them playing with the garbage can, right? Or if they decide they want to take all of their snacks out of the bags and play with the boxes it isn’t as bad as them wanting to play with the outlets. There are some things that are ok and aren’t worth a total breakdown.
Celebrate the little wins. This one is huge, especially if the house is a jungle of toys and dirty laundry but you got your little one to eat all of his lunch without giving it to the dog. Celebrate those little wins and give yourself a pat on the back. A wins a win in my book and it’ll help your sanity. Remembering that you might have had a hard day but you got the house cleaned up is worth that extra cupcake you want to reward yourself with.
Have something that’s yours. I can’t stress this one enough, if you take anything away from this post, make it this. When I was on maternity leave with Ian I was going crazy. I loved it don’t get me wrong, but I needed something that I could do to take me away from the responsibilities and bottles just for an hour if anything. That’s where my blog came in. It was my escape, my sanity. Whether it’s working out, knitting, or starting a blog. Anything that can be 100 percent yours, will be a nice little treat when you can get a minute away from the baby.
There you have it folks, how to survive life with a year old.
It’s different for every baby.
However, there are things we can do as parents to keep our sanity.
To make days not as stressful and to laugh every now and then.
Remember, were all human and we make mistakes.
Kids can’t tell the difference and they love us no matter what.