It’s when you least expect it.
That’s what you always hear.
That you’ll meet the love of your life the moment you least expect it.
There’s more to it though.
You can’t run around life thinking to yourself..
Is it going to happen now?
How about now?
What if this is the unexpected moment when I meet the love of my life.
You just can’t do that.
It won’t happen.
I spent so many years wondering those things to myself.
Relying so much on the empty hope that this was that unexpected moment where I meet the love of my life.
It’s so simple looking back at it now.
The moment you meet the love of your life isn’t when you least expect it, it’s when your life is where you expect it to be.
When you decide to take charge and start living the life you want, and start appreciating everything you are, that’s when it happens.
I actually met the love of my life when I was dating someone.
I went to my old high school to visit a teacher who was retiring.
My sister was coaching with our old track team and suggested that I just come with her to their practice.
I stood awkwardly, like I do best, on the side of the track, waiting for practice to start.
My sister stood next to the kids she coached to take attendance when she noticed the head distance coach coming.
She gave me this look like “quick pretend you’re me and I’ll hide” and proceeded to hide in the middle of the runners.
He came over to me and just started talking faster than me, which I didn’t think was possible.
“Hey what’s up (highfive) you look dressed up today what’s going on, so today for practice I was thinking.”
I had to interrupt him because I felt bad.
I told him that I was Janelle’s twin sister and she was off hiding in the middle of the kids.
And that was it.
There weren’t sparks in the air, and I didn’t instantly know.
I think it’s because I wasn’t in the right place.
I thought poorly of myself and was in a bad relationship.
I wasn’t ready to love someone let alone myself.
Fast forward a couple of months to me getting dumped with a lot of time on my hands.
I worked weird hours at my job where I didn’t start work until 2:30 in the afternoon, leaving so much spare time in the morning.
I decided to see if I could help coach with my sisters team during the summer.
Something I loved doing, running.
Something that my ex didn’t want me to do.
Something that might help bring some extra joy to my life.
She was going to be working and needed someone to take her place.
A few days later I got a message on Facebook from the person I had earlier tricked into thinking I was my sister, Jason.
He asked me about coaching and said that he was super excited to meet me.
Again, didn’t think anything of it.
A couple of days later he had posted a picture on Facebook that I liked, within minutes I received another message.
It was after I got off of work, so around midnight or so.
I stared at my phone.
My heart started beating incredibly fast.
What do I do.
What do I say.
He literally asked me a question but I found myself getting nervous.
I hadn’t even started coaching yet, why was he interested in talking to me.
I remember talking to myself.
“He’s so cute, but older than you Megan, GET YOURSELF TOGETHER.”
I responded back and we just started talking.
A few conversations turned into days.
Talking to him was the easiest feeling.
I was so nervous to start coaching, hanging around with him.
He was so cute.
I was finally in that place where I wanted to be.
I had fallen in love with myself, started coaching, and appreciated everything that my life was.
I had spent so much time with myself that I can say I truly loved myself for everything that I was.
I can’t speak for him.
I don’t know what he was thinking about that night he first messaged me, or that day when he thought I was my sister.
But I knew when we first started talking that he was special.
I knew I needed him in my life one way or another.
He had become my best friend.
I couldn’t imagine a day not talking to him.
It wasn’t easy though.
I had to wait for him to get to where he expected to be.
I had to wait for him to figure out what he wanted and where he wanted to be.
If you know me at all, you know that I like to control everything, but I couldn’t control this.
It was probably one of the biggest moments in my life up to that point.
Deciding I couldn’t control this.
That I had to let things happen the way they were meant to be.
I had finally gotten to a place where I was comfortable enough with myself that I could wait.
That if it was meant to be it would happen.
And it did.
It wasn’t easy.
But it was worth it.
When both people are in the right place, wonderful things can happen.
That summer I fell in love with my best friend.
The love of my life and now amazing husband and father to our wonderful son.
It doesn’t happen with you least expect it.
It happens when you’re at this point in your life when you’re happy and you stop thinking about it.
It happens that moment you decide to love yourself.
That moment you decide to let things happen the way their supposed to happen.